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Growing up in a conservative family where everyone seemed to share the same opinions was like being in a never-ending echo chamber. I love my family deeply, but when it came to discussing hot-button topics like religion, politics, or social justice, it felt like opening Pandora’s box… except instead of chaos, you got judgment and awkward silence. Questioning the status quo wasn’t just frowned upon; it felt like betraying the family group chat. So, I learned to keep my thoughts to myself, which, let’s be honest, is a skill I’ve mastered so well I could teach a masterclass on it.
This upbringing is a big reason why I’m so passionate about advocating for marginalized groups: LGBTQ+ individuals, people with diverse sexual identities, immigrants, and everybody else in between. Growing up, these communities were often framed in a negative light, whether through offhanded comments, dismissive jokes, or religious interpretations that painted them as “wrong” or “sinful.” It was like being handed a coloring book where all the lines were already drawn, and I was told not to color outside them. But over time, I met people from these very communities, and they didn’t just color outside the lines… they threw the whole book out and painted a masterpiece. They were friends, coworkers, and mentors who were intelligent, compassionate, and unapologetically themselves. Their resilience in the face of constant judgment and hate was nothing short of inspiring.
Unfortunately, the hateful rhetoric hasn’t gone away. If anything, it’s gotten louder, thanks to our current political climate. Every day, I see family members, friends, and even public figures sharing harmful propaganda online. Whether it’s dehumanizing undocumented immigrants, mocking someone’s sexual identity, or spreading false narratives about LGBTQ+ rights, these messages aren’t just personal beliefs; they’re fuel for a culture of fear and exclusion. And let’s be real, social media has turned into a dumpster fire where everyone’s tossing in their two cents, but no one’s bringing a fire extinguisher.
What’s worse is how normalized this rhetoric has become in political discourse. Politicians and media outlets use fear as a tool to divide us, framing marginalized communities as threats to our way of life. Spoiler alert: this isn’t leadership: it’s manipulation. And while I fully support the right to self-expression, there’s a clear difference between sharing your beliefs and weaponizing them to dehumanize others. It’s like the difference between saying, “I don’t like pineapple on pizza,” and declaring, “Pineapple on pizza is an abomination, and anyone who eats it should be exiled.” One’s an opinion; the other’s just mean.
The harm this rhetoric causes is heartbreaking. Marginalized communities already face significant challenges, yet the constant barrage of hate and misinformation makes it even harder for them to be seen, heard, or protected. Take President Trump’s policies, for example. Executive orders targeting these groups, the surge in hate crimes, and the divisive rhetoric have only deepened the divide. It’s not just political: it’s personal. And as a law enforcement officer, I see the real-world consequences of this every day.
The call I respond to most frequently isn’t about crime; it’s about someone in a mental health crisis. Whether it’s depression, suicidal thoughts, or overwhelming isolation, these situations are heartbreaking. And here’s the kicker: a staggering majority of these individuals belong to marginalized groups. People of color, LGBTQ+ individuals; they’re all disproportionately affected by mental health challenges. The statistics don’t lie, but neither do the stories I encounter daily. These are people just trying to survive in a society that sometimes seems designed to push them further into the margins.
That’s why I’m so frustrated by the rhetoric and policies championed by leaders like Trump. They don’t just perpetuate hate; they have real, tangible consequences. The constant negativity and exclusion exacerbate the mental health crisis in these communities. When you’re told over and over again, whether directly or indirectly, that you don’t belong, it wears you down. It’s like death by a thousand paper cuts, except the paper cuts are microaggressions and systemic discrimination.
This isn’t about politics; it’s about humanity. These are people, not talking points. The policies we support and the words we use have power. They shape how people see themselves and how others treat them. And when leaders at the highest level spread divisive rhetoric, it doesn’t just stay in speeches… it filters into daily life. It emboldens prejudice, normalizes discrimination, and leaves already vulnerable people even more isolated. This is why I don’t support it when people said they will just “put up with a mean Twitter post” if it means getting rid of our current administration. It’s like trading a leaky roof for a house made of tissue paper. Sure, the rain might not drip on your head anymore, but now the whole structure is one sneeze away from collapse. It makes no sense and is actually probably worse in the long run.
If we want to address the mental health epidemic, we have to start by creating a society where people feel safe, valued, and supported… regardless of their race, sexual orientation, gender identity, or immigration status. Because nobody should have to live in fear of being themselves, and nobody should feel like their existence is a problem to be solved. This problem can be aided with true leadership.
True leadership recognizes that equality isn’t optional or subjective. It’s essential. The fight to undo harmful policies is personal for millions of us, whether we’re part of the LGBTQ+ community, immigrants seeking a better life, or people of color who’ve faced systemic racism for generations. Discrimination in any form, whether based on race, immigration status, sexual orientation, or identity, isn’t just misguided; it’s morally wrong.
As a straight white man working in a profession often associated with conservative values, I refuse to tolerate discrimination. Whether it’s a person of color fighting to be seen as equal, an immigrant trying to provide for their family, or someone expressing their true identity, my job is to serve and protect people… not to judge them. It’s a belief I carry with me every day, in every part of my life.
To those who may not agree with someone’s sexual orientation, identity, race, or decision to seek refuge in a new country, I ask this: What harm does it truly bring you? How does their existence, their love, or their pursuit of a better life affect yours? Spoiler: it doesn’t. In fact, most fears about immigration are wildly exaggerated. But your words, actions, or even silence in the face of injustice can have a devastating impact on theirs.
Respect isn’t about agreement; it’s about recognizing someone’s humanity and treating them with dignity. The fight for equality isn’t someone else’s issue… it’s ours. It starts with rejecting policies and attitudes that dehumanize, marginalize, or encourage hatred. Standing up for what’s right means standing up for everyone.
I’m not here to change your mind or sway your political thinking, but I am asking you to pause and consider the weight of your words and actions. Weaponizing opinions to hurt others doesn’t make us stronger or more principled; it erodes the very foundation of our humanity.
Growing up, I was taught to hold strong values, to be firm in my beliefs, and to defend what I thought was right. But as I’ve grown, I’ve learned that true strength doesn’t come from rigidly clinging to inherited ideas. It comes from listening, reflecting, and embracing the complexities of others’ lives… even when they don’t align with my own.
I’ve met people who belong to communities I was taught to judge, and they’ve shown me a depth of compassion and resilience I couldn’t have imagined. I’ve seen how harmful policies and hateful rhetoric impact their lives. Not as abstract political debates, but as daily battles to feel seen, heard, and valued. And I’ve come to understand that respecting someone’s humanity doesn’t require me to agree with every aspect of their life; it simply requires me to care.
Whether it’s the LGBTQ+ community, immigrants, or people of color, we all deserve the chance to live without fear, to love who we love, and to pursue our dreams without prejudice holding us back. These aren’t radical ideas: they’re fundamental truths. And while we may not all agree on the finer points of policy or politics, we can agree that hate has no place in our homes, in our communities, or in our hearts.
So, I challenge you… not to change your beliefs, but to examine how they’re expressed. Does your self-expression uplift others or tear them down? Does it invite understanding or perpetuate division? The answer matters because our words, our actions, and even our silence have power. And that power can either build a more compassionate world or deepen the wounds of those already hurting.
In the end, it’s not about winning arguments or proving someone wrong. It’s about doing what’s right. Not just for those in our inner circles but for the people we may never meet, the ones who need our kindness the most. This was a difficult concept for me to grasp for most of my childhood and early adult years. The old me would engage in political discourse every time I saw something I disagreed with. Not only was this exhausting, but it also didn’t accomplish much. That’s not to say I don’t still love a good debate every now and then… Because come on. I will also not be silenced when misinformation is being spread to perpetuate hate. Arguing with hate is like trying to teach a cat to fetch. Its pointless, exhausting, and you’ll probably end up with scratches. So let’s just focus on being decent humans, okay? Let’s use our voices to create connection, not conflict, and our beliefs to build bridges, not walls. And let’s not forget: kindness isn’t a compromise; it’s a choice… and it’s always the right one.
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